Friday, March 03, 2006
8:42 pm
i guess i'm not blogging as frequently as i used to but hey, at least i still made it this far lol..
well, my father came back from some business trip from japan yesterday and brought back a few animation stuff toys from the exclusive Studio Ghibli store (you know, the guy who drew spirited away? hayao miyazaki-sensei?) and some miniature cat and dog models.
and i thought since his mood seems ok, i wouldn't be told off for the puniest things or for things that i seriously am not responsible for.
well well well, my parents never cease to surprise me.
personally, i think that an eleven year old is old enough to pick the meat from a fish all by herself (with the exception of my dear friend ky, who had a hell of a problem eating from an actual fish on her own) but no.. my mother had to keep making me pick out the meat for my sister every single time fish is served for any meal.
so i told her that she's old enough to do it herself and if you keep doing things for her, she will never want to do things on her own.
hey, i'm doing this for my sister's own good. she'll just expect people to do things for her and never try to think of ways to do things by herself.
ok fine, she says that my sister don't have arms that are long enough to reach the fish so i shifted the plate nearer to her so that she could pick the meat easier and what do i get for my earlier suggestion?
i got told off by that moronic father of mine who moved that plate of fish further away from me and snapped "it isn't as if we begged you to do it."
fine. so you didn't beg me. well, i guess then i have no obligation to do as you asked. then again, even if you did beg, i might just not do it also.
for goodness' sake, must we help her every step of her life? must we fill her plate for her when she could have done it perfectly well herself?
yeah, so i didn't do a good job of eating from a fish when i was her age but through trial and error i made it this far, didn't i?
doing everything for her will just make her depend on others and not on her own capabilities. she will just end up sitting there and waiting for others to lay out everything perfectly in front of her.
am i not being a caring elder sister?
for one, i wouldn't mind looking out for her and protecting her but she is the one who has to first learn how to take care of herself.
strong people don't grow up waiting for people to do things for them. they try it themselves and if it's wrong, they attempt it again until it is done to their satisfaction.
you don't see me doing all her maths homework for her and just tell her the answer without making her think of the steps she should do before reaching the answer.
you don't see me flipping through the dictionary everytime she comes across a difficult word and not teach her how to use the dictionary herself.
oh heck that dumb thing about "now we know how to bring up a kid properly now that she's the second kid."
if that's the case, damn am i glad that i was brought up by my grandparents instead.
yes they dote on me. almost every other relative on my father's side pampers me. my grandparents love me to death but they let me figure out things on my own.
they let me do my own testings and occasional trips. all they did was to tell me that there's a better way to do it.
they guide me. they don't take care of everything for me.
to me, that is sensible pampering.
doing everything for a child is not pampering; that is ruining a child's own ability to handle things for him/herself.
i would prefer having to experience obstacles and problems than to have a life where everything is smooth-sailing. it is only through all the falling down that we learn.
to learn the right things to do, the right way around things, the right decisions to make.
screw my father for wanting me to get into a junior college so that "your path is cleared of problems and everything will flow smoothly."
i want my life to be imperfect. i want problems. i want obstacles.
if there is no current going against me then life has seriously lost its interest. there would be nothing to live for when there is no anticipation to each new day, knowing that you have an obstacle to conquer.
these are things that makes life meaningful.
and TWO adults can't figure that on their own?!
SCREW THEM.